Doin' da butt....

Dear Dr. Freud,

I have to tell you about the most interesting discovery I’ve uncovered deep within the psyches and buttocks of the American male―a love of butt play. Of course, to you this is most likely no surprise as you speculated in your theories of psychosexual development that during the anal stage we become fixated with the erogenous zone of the anus. And given that as you also speculated libido is a powerful force. It would make sense that the seeking of pleasure in the sweet spot in the bottoms of the American male would be a prevailing drive. And who is anyone to deny them such pleasure, certainly not I.

My fascination currently with all things anal  is a little different from your classic view on anal fixation. Tho’ maybe a twist on your idea that as part of toilet training a child’s ability to control his anal sphincter, coincides with the development of a belief of his ability to ´give´ or ‘withhold’ gifts at will. Because you see, when it comes to butt play, I loves giving me some big time pleasure to a sweet little derriere in need. ‘Cause you know me, I’m all about the giving.

As I mentioned in a letter to B, on Friday I put an advert up on Craigslist Wednesday of last week looking for a sweet butt (or two) to work over. The thing that I was amazed by with the ad as I have been so many times previously is the number of married guys who responded to the ad.  Of the 28 or so responses I got to this ad 11 of them were from married guys—or nearly half.

There a couple of things that led to this I believe. The first being the fact that I placed the ad during the day as I have found when I do so I get more responses from married guys. And the other, is that obviously the guys who are seeking to get their butts pleasured are not getting it at home.

Which hey no worries here, I’m more than happy to take up the slack. However, I do have to wonder why the sweet gents are not getting it at home.

I realize part of it is most likely due to the fact that overall we are a pretty sex negative culture right now. And of course there is the issue that most people generally are pretty freeky about the anus and the activity that is generally associated with it. So there is most likely a pretty steep resistance curve when a guy says to the wife, “Honey, will you stick your finger up my ass?” Probably due to the fact that most women, but not all, might associate such activity with being gay, after all what man in his right mind would actually *want* anything stuck up his ass.

While there is a part of me that wishes to believe these guys are seeking to have anal pleasure with another guy due to the fact they are really closeted and gay. However, I have to wonder if that is truly the case. There were only a couple who identified themselves as bisexual and married when responding to this latest post. Most of the others who responded merely described themselves as married with no other qualifier about their sexuality.

So I have to wonder if they’re seeking to experience prostate stimulation because they enjoy it and perhaps receiving such from me (another guy) seems to be the more viable alternative than seeking the services of a prostitute or visiting a massage parlor? Which I’m totally down with because as I’ve said before, I loves me working over a sweet ass. Especially if the guy is fun and into it and not ridden with guilt and angst about the experience.

Most of the guys who’ve I hooked up with have seemed to be pretty free of hang ups and misgivings about the experience. However, there have been a few who have backed out after we’ve come to an agreement about day and time. This leads me to believe there continues to be a fair number of guys who either feel guilt about wanting to be pleasured anally, or perhaps in someway believe there is a gay connotation for wanting to receive anal pleasure.

Of course there is no connotation of being gay in regard to wanting to have one’s prostate stimulated. There are any number of gay guys who are not into anal play and have no desire to experience it. I have good friend who laughs every time I tell him about all my adventures in anal fun land. He always says, “Don’t even think of coming my way with that on your mind. It’ll never happen.” And he’s got the sweetest butt, how unfortunate.

Anyway good doctor, I believe it’s time for me to wrap this up and think about getting on to other things before I need to get ready for bed.

Thanks for listening!